{"id":10298,"date":"2022-11-16T13:12:31","date_gmt":"2022-11-16T13:12:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ultimatehealthreport.com\/dreaming-about-more-sex-dad-dont-get-your-hopes-up-talking-about-mens-health\/"},"modified":"2022-11-16T13:12:31","modified_gmt":"2022-11-16T13:12:31","slug":"dreaming-about-more-sex-dad-dont-get-your-hopes-up-talking-about-mens-health","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ultimatehealthreport.com\/dreaming-about-more-sex-dad-dont-get-your-hopes-up-talking-about-mens-health\/","title":{"rendered":"Dreaming About More Sex, Dad? Don\u2019t Get Your Hopes Up \u2013 Talking About Men&#8217;s Health\u2122"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\"><i>Dear Mr. Dad: I\u2019m going to cut straight to the chase. Our baby was born more than six months ago, and we\u2019ve had sex a grand total of twice since then. Right after the birth\u2014which was normal in every way\u2014my wife\u2019s OB told us that we\u2019d be able to resume our regular sex life after about six weeks. My wife and I are in our mid-twenties and I\u2019m still incredibly attracted to her. She says that she\u2019s attracted to me as well, but that she\u2019s simply lost her sex drive. Is that normal? Of course, I don\u2019t want to keep bugging her to do something that she\u2019d rather not be doing. But I\u2019m worried that maybe there\u2019s something else going on? Is there anything I can do that would help her (and, honestly, myself) and make sure our relationship lasts?<\/i><\/p>\n<p class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">A: This is a very common question and I\u2019m glad you asked. OBs often tell new parents to hold off on having sex for those famous six weeks because that\u2019s usually how long it takes for the woman\u2019s body to recover. Unfortunately, that six-week guideline can lead to unrealistic expectations, which in turn can lead to resentment and relationship strain\u2014exactly what you and your partner are experiencing right now. The truth is that plenty of couples take as long as a year to get back to their pre-pregnancy and pre-baby sex life.<span id=\"more-26399\"\/><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Here are a few of the many factors that could be putting a damper on your wife\u2019s sex drive:<\/p>\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">If your wife is nursing, she\u2019s producing hormones that may mildly suppress her desire. And after having a baby groping her all day, she may be less than enthusiastic about having anyone else (you, for example) making a move toward her breasts.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Nursing mothers also tend to produce less vaginal lubrication, which can make intercourse painful.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">She may be finding it difficult to reconcile her new role as the baby\u2019s mother with her old role as your wife and lover. That might make her see herself as unsexual.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">She may be having trouble thinking of her vagina as a sexual organ after seeing a baby come out of it.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">She may simply not be feeling attractive.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Other common factors that may reduce her sex drive include fatigue, stress, lack of time, and the baby\u2019s sleeping habits.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">As for what to do to boost her sex drive, try this:<\/p>\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Help her get more sleep. That may mean that you get up and handle more of the middle-of-the night feedings. The downside is that you might end up too exhausted to have sex.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Buy some lubricant\u2014and use lots of it.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Help her eat right and exercise.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Give her some down time. She loves you and your baby but would probably give anything for a few minutes alone.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Flirt. A lot. When she gets out of bed in the morning, tell her how great she looks, let her catch you peeking down her shirt, send her a few sexts, or leave a few sexy voicemails during the day.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Go on a date. Hire a sitter, and while you\u2019re out, make a serious effort to go at least 15 minutes without talking about the baby. It\u2019s harder than it sounds.<\/li>\n<li class=\"yiv9152275954ydp5a0eff2bMsoNormal\">Be there. The greatest aphrodisiac for new mothers is feeling loved and cared for by their husband and seeing that their baby is getting the same. From your wife\u2019s point of view, loving your child is an expression of your love for her. The more you actively engage with your baby, the more she\u2019ll want to make you happy. 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