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I love those posts about famous people who didn\u2019t reach their stride until mid-life. Or \u2018til after receiving hundreds of rejection letters. Or following some huge life-altering experience. Like George Lucas who got turned down by three major movie studios. Michael Jordan who got cut from his high school basketball team, twice. The dude who started FedEx who allegedly got a C on his college term paper promoting the original biz idea.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re all well-known now (well most of them), but without special skills like tenacity, self-compassion, and flat-out trusting the process, they might not have ever gotten there.<\/p>\n

The same thing goes for those of you struggling with sticking to a primal or keto diet, or trying to stretch out your fasting window by a few more hours, or ramping up your workout routine. I see it fairly frequently with my health coaching clients. They\u2019re diligently following their real-food-eating-plan, tuning into their hunger levels, and moving their bodies regularly, then suddenly, there\u2019s some obstacle that totally derails their hopes and dreams of success.<\/p>\n

Obstacles can look like:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Breakthroughs are Never Linear<\/h3>\n

The path to anything, be it fat loss, healing, PRs, or personal growth, is never a straight line. It\u2019s curvy, messy, and often times chaotic. It\u2019s just part of being human. And although it feels like you\u2019re not making progress, you actually are.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like in the old days before electric drills and powerful jackhammers were a thing, they used to break boulders with handheld sledgehammers. Workers would hit those darn things over and over again without seeing any progress, but they\u2019d keep at it because that was their job. Then, on the 50th or so hit, the boulder would magically split in half. Except it wasn\u2019t magic, it\u2019s science. They\u2019re breaking down the integrity of the structure, each hit microscopically chipping away at it.<\/p>\n

Just like my boulder analogy, the same thing is happening to you and your goals. Even though it looks like nothing is happening on the outside, each time you choose bacon and eggs over a jumbo Costco-sized muffin or go for a walk even when you don\u2019t feel like it, you\u2019re shifting something key to your success on the inside.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Why You Need Resiliency<\/h3>\n

When you\u2019re armed with this knowledge ahead of time, you can lessen the powerlessness that can tag along for the ride. You know, the feeling like you\u2019re banging your head against a wall that doesn\u2019t ever move. People with a sense of resiliency are usually the most successful at persevering the ups and downs of their struggles. They\u2019ve learned how to adapt, emotionally and physically, in the face of adversity. Not only does this help them keep a positive mindset, it prevents them from giving up \u2014 which, really is the biggest piece of this puzzle.<\/p>\n

The Three Cs of Resilience<\/h3>\n

Resiliency isn\u2019t just something you\u2019re born with either, you can learn to develop it. According to research by Susan Kobasa, a psychologist who studies hardiness and grit, there are three elements essential to resilience:<\/p>\n

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  • Challenge.<\/strong> As in, challenge your thoughts. When you reframe a stressor as an opportunity to grow versus something to be dreaded or threatened by, you\u2019re more equipped to move through it. That\u2019s true for setbacks too. You can choose to view them as feedback, not failure or a reflection of your self-worth.<\/li>\n
  • Control.<\/strong> Knowing what you can control and what you can\u2019t is crucial here. Those who lack resilience often spend time stewing over uncontrollable events, which can create a feeling of helplessness and powerlessness. In contrast, putting your efforts toward situations where you can make an impact leads to feelings of empowerment and confidence.<\/li>\n
  • Commitment.<\/strong> Are you committed to following through even when the going gets tough? Or are you only willing to go \u2018til it gets uncomfortable? Resilient people are dedicated to taking action until their goal is met, regardless of the obstacles that arise.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Basically, resilience helps you handle stress in a more positive way.<\/strong> A study by developmental psychologist Emmy Werner backs up that thinking. She followed a group of 698 kids from birth through their third decade of life, monitoring their exposure to stress along the way. Two-thirds of the subjects came from stable, successful backgrounds while the other one-third were qualified as \u201cat risk.\u201d Of the at-risk kids, she discovered that some developed significant behaviour and mental health problems, while a small subsection of the group achieved academic, domestic, and social success.<\/p>\n

    Sifting through the data, Werner learned that there were several elements that predicted resilience, most of which had to do with how the children responded to their environment, adding that the resilient kids had what psychologists call an internal locus of control \u2014 they believed that they (not their circumstances) had the biggest impact on their accomplishments.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Are You on the Verge of a Breakthrough?<\/h3>\n

    The reason resiliency is so important here is that breakthroughs typically happen right as (or after) you hit your breaking point. And you want to have the skills to actually get there and persevere. While some of these signs may seem negative on the surface, they mean that you\u2019re on the right path, and that a breakthrough is right around the corner.<\/p>\n

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    1. You notice an increase in resistance.<\/strong> Does it seem like it\u2019s harder to do the things you\u2019re trying to do? Maybe you\u2019re up against a physical challenge like an injury, or your spouse continually brings home donuts. Resistance to opening a new door in life is always strongest right before you get to that door. So don\u2019t let these obstacles derail you. Also don\u2019t take them as a sign that whatever it is you\u2019re working toward isn\u2019t worth it. In contrast, it\u2019s a sign you\u2019re on the brink of something great.<\/li>\n
    2. You feel like giving up.<\/strong> Self-doubt typically stems from previous negative experiences and limiting beliefs. And it\u2019s completely normal, especially when you\u2019re up against a goal that\u2019s important to you. Know that never wanting to quit isn\u2019t a sign of strength, it means your goals are too small. Big goals will always elicit some level of self-doubt, so take this opportunity to lean into that feeling even more.<\/li>\n
    3. You want to change your goals.<\/strong> Ditching sugar or grains might have felt like a great idea a few weeks ago, but suddenly, in the midst of pumpkin-spice-everything, you\u2019re not so sure. Think of working on your goal like hiking up a mountain. There\u2019s always going to be places where you feel like stopping or turning around and heading back to your car. But instead of settling (or hiking up a different mountain), stay the course. The view from the top is 100% worth it.<\/li>\n
    4. You\u2019re uncomfortable more than you\u2019re not.<\/strong> Most people life their lives on autopilot, staying within the cozy confines of their comfort zones. If you\u2019re at a point where most of the time you\u2019re feeling unsure, scared, doing things you\u2019ve never done before, and wondering why the heck you\u2019re even doing them, congratulations, your breakthrough is definitely on the horizon.<\/li>\n
    5. You find something that clicks.<\/strong> I realize there\u2019s a lot of potential discomfort in these signs \u2014 after all, who wants to be faced with fear, self-doubt, and uncertainty on an almost-daily basis? But when you stick with it long enough, you\u2019ll reap the rewards. With enough resilience (and an understanding that you\u2019re headed in the right direction), you\u2019ll get to a point where everything starts to fall into place and your path becomes crystal clear. That\u2019s when you know you\u2019ve reached the other side.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Don\u2019t Give Up, You\u2019re Almost There<\/h3>\n

      Most people give up before the good stuff happens. Right before they see the results, get the PR, or fit in the smaller pant size. If you\u2019re feeling frustrated, filled with doubt, or wondering why you ever started working toward your goal in the first place, let this be your invitation to stay the course. These five signs mean that you\u2019re just on the other side of a breakthrough:<\/p>\n

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      1. You notice an increase in resistance<\/li>\n
      2. You feel like giving up<\/li>\n
      3. You want to change your goals<\/li>\n
      4. You\u2019re uncomfortable more than you\u2019re not<\/li>\n
      5. You find something that clicks<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        How about you? What signs do you notice when you\u2019re getting close to a breakthrough?<\/em><\/p>\n

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        \nAbout the Author<\/span>
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        Erin Power is the Coaching and Curriculum Director for\u00a0Primal Health Coach Institute. She also helps her clients regain a loving and trusting relationship with their bodies\u2014while restoring their metabolic health, so they can lose fat and gain energy\u2014via her own private health coaching practice,\u00a0eat.simple.<\/p>\n

        If you have a passion for health and wellness and a desire to help people like Erin does every day for her clients, consider becoming a certified health coach yourself. Learn the 3 simple steps to building a successful health coaching business in 6 months or less in this\u00a0special info session hosted by PHCI co-founder Mark Sisson.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n