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One issue with the question of \u201chow much sex is enough sex\u201d is that it places the focus on the wrong thing, according to Zimmerman.<\/p>\n
\u201cI mean, what counts as sex anyway? If you\u2019re focused on \u2018the act\u2019 (whatever that is for you) and the frequency of such, then you\u2019re focused on the wrong thing,\u201d she says. \u201cIt\u2019s not just about \u2018getting it done\u2019 or checking the box. The point of sex, from my point of view, is to share pleasure with your partner and to feel connected in the process, no matter what you do with your body parts and what the end result is.\u201d<\/p>\n
It\u2019s less about whether you and your partner are engaging in a certain act a certain number of times. It\u2019s about how connected the two of you feel and how much pleasure you\u2019re getting to enjoy in your relationship.<\/p>\n
So with that in mind, Zimmerman recommends asking yourself a more important question: Am I (and is my partner) having enough pleasure and connection?<\/em><\/p>\n \u201cConsider whether you\u2019d like more pleasure and whether you feel enough connection in your relationship. And ask your partner about whether they\u2019d like more of those things,\u201d she explains. \u201cIf so, prioritize that.\u201d<\/p>\n That might mean having more sex more often, or any other number of ways to creatively bridge the gap. The point, as it always is when it comes to sex: just focus on doing what actually <\/em>makes you and your partner feel good.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n